Mormon women are in trouble again. Not for selling out to the patriarchy or for working outside the home. Not for having too many or not enough kids. Not for wearing skinny jeans or peep-toe shoes. No, this time it?s for being overwhelming subscribers to an online bulletin board site called Pinterest.[i]
So, just in case you?ve recently awakened from a coma or returned from a lengthy research stint in the upper Amazon, here?s how it works. Once you create your Pinterest account, you can browse ideas for home design, children?s crafts, food recipes, home organization, party themes, cake decorating, holiday ideas, fashion, and even your favorite artwork, photography, travel destinations, cute animals, and life-affirming quotes. When you find an idea, either from Pinterest or from another website or blog, you can ?pin? it to your profile. Next comes the fun part?organizing all of your pins according to various categories or ?boards,? sometimes with creative names, like ?Wanderlust? for your travel destination ideas (thanks, Janiece!). Type in the search word ?turquoise? and you?ll get dozens of hits on things turquoise, from peacocks, fashion, pillows, and jewelry to peaceful topical getaways. Heck, if it?s not on Pinterest, then you can even invent new categories that others haven?t yet thought of. My husband?yes?created a board of freshwater cichlids for in-home aquariums?it?s still one of my most popular boards (and also an indicator of the possibility of shared gender spaces on the typically-female site).
The widespread popularity of Pinterest among Mormon women has gained recent attention. With over 11.7 million active users and 85% of them women, Mormon women are obviously a small numerical minority of all Pinteresters, but their larger cultural presence is met with a bit of derision. Gawker.com recently complained that ?Mormon women are taking over Pinterest.?
The reasons for Mo-Pinning are not really a mystery. For the scrabooking, stamping, and crafting set, Pinterest is an alternate virtual outlet for the domestic inclinations of the young Mormon mommy. Pinterest remains relatively free from conflict on divisive religious and political issues, so it also acts as an escape valve from other online forums. And for the particularly zealous LDS proselytizers, what better forum for sharing G.A. quotes, scriptures, and reminders to the world that ?we really are Christians!?
Pinterest offers many creative and practical benefits for idea-sharing, and is primarily a useful organizing format for simply keeping track of one?s ideas. It?s like having Martha Stewart Living, Better Homes and Gardens, Parenting, HGTV, and Architectural Digest all in one click. In short, it provides a one-stop online window-shopping center that might just portend the demise of your grandmother?s dog-eared cookbook. Still, with all of these virtues, I, too, am curious by the larger cultural meaning of Pinterest for Mormon women.
Typical of online social networking sites, Pinterest succeeds in building a community of sorts, with only limited familiarity, unless you know your followers personally. Less intimate than Facebook, Pinterest allows you to share people?s ideas without actually having to communicate. That particular lack of direct engagement helps to preserve anonymity, but, most importantly, it reinforces the tendency toward a certain kind of idealized self-expression. This might be even more pronounced among Mormon women, because, ?there?s also a cultural drive among Mormons to cultivate and share an image of domestic bliss?and Pinterest is the perfect packaging vehicle for that aim. Pinterest traffics in that relentless, almost eerie perfection that has made Mormon Mommy blogs popular . . .? (Gawker)
As one friend put it, ?Pinterest is popular because it allows for the illusion of conformity, perfection and accomplishment without having to do anything.? In fairness, I know many people who have actually tried and experimented with various designs, crafts, recipes, and lesson ideas they found on Pinterest, but I also recognize that for some, the ?pinning? process is an outlet for hopeful aspiration, or the projecting of an idealized self: Imagining one’s life after poverty (young wife in a small two-bedroom apartment pins ideas on how to design her someday McMansion), life after weight loss (pinning fashion that won’t work with your body type), life after marriage (look at all of the “Wedding Boards”), life after having children (crafts, clothing, nursery design), life after financial solvency (elaborate and expensive fantasy vacations, sophisticated interior design schemes). Indeed, the virtual self is sometimes better than the reality. Is this unique to Mormon women? Probably not. But are there elements of Mormon life that amplify these desires in inappropriate ways? Certainly.
Pinterest reflects the ultimate postmodern impulse of allowing one?s ?self?– or even fractured ?selves?– to be externally defined for the public gaze (hence, the ?pinning? ?repinning? and ?liking? of images and ideas that you never knew you desired before you saw them). Your invented self is then reinforced when someone likes or ?repins? your idea. How you feel when someone ?repins? your pin is a perhaps a similar emotion to when someone ?likes? your pithy comment on Facebook. (Imagine my own surprise at each email notifying me that one more popular girl from high school is now following me. Literally, the entire wrestling cheerleading squad is finally affirming my existence on Pinterest, although twenty-five years a bit overdue.) But, a warning, “The Pinterest-self is a self on display, not a self in relation, and therein lies the vice. Therein, too, lies insecurity and crippling anxiety, because an identity based entirely on the display of images– actual images or metaphorical ‘image’– is inherently fragile, vulnerable to attack from every corner.“ Still, even with the reinforcement of self, any ideas that might have started out as individual expressions begin to diffuse into a collective and conforming whole. When I showed a recent wall design to my niece, she declared it ?very Pinterest-y,? indicating the increasingly homogenous direction of Pinterest idea shares.
Perhaps the most disturbing meaning for Pinterest popularity is what it says about American?and Mormon consumerism. On the one hand, I see so many pins that are about frugality and doing more with less, of practical home organization ideas, and how to recycle or reuse those hangers and toilet paper rolls and old shoelaces and terra cotta pots. Pinterest provides an admirable?and perhaps uniquely Mormon(?) outlet for thrift and sacrifice. But on the other hand, I see such elaborately expensive and unobtainable scenes to reinforce a concern about modern Conspicuous Consumption, just as worrisome today as it was to Thorstein Veblen?s observations about the Gilded Age upper and middle classes a hundred years ago. This concern for excess worried even historical Mormon women. I recently came across a quote by Zina D.H. Young in her collections at the CHL, which I can only paraphrase here. She had visited the home of Brigham Young for the wedding of one of his daughters. The wedding presents on display, she noticed, were a great comfort to the wealthy, but probably would be considered obscene to the poorer classes of people. Pinterest can likewise create a false sense of material discontent, wherein ?this form of visual stimulus can feed the visual and emotional appetite and lead to mindless and harmful consumption.? Or, as one Pinterester regretted here, “As I scroll through the pages, I am overwhelmed by the feeling that I will never have enough: enough money, to own all the beautiful things I want; enough time, to cook all the tempting recipes; enough skill, to attempt all the crafting projects; enough beauty, to have that hair or to pull off that dress.”
The results of this dilemma can go in two directions. One is to reinforce the already-too-typical Mormon woman problem of guilt-ridden failure to meet unrealistic expectations. The other is perhaps a bit more hopeful, and reflects the possibilities of a post-consumer society?of a world free from excess production and waste, and of finding the satisfaction of enough. We can?t imagine away the realities of poverty and lack for some people, but perhaps we can imagine away our own excesses. Maybe virtual pinning is enough. Since most observers will never visit your home to see how well you decorate, how creative your kids? crafts are, and whether you made that crème brulee for dessert, they will also never know whether you did it. It might be enough that you pinned it on Pinterest, a virtual declaration of your domestic and design aspirations, or your desire to ?simply enjoy beauty without lusting after the objects (and people) you find beautiful.?
So to redeem THIS Mormon woman from the sins of Pinterest, it is where I have gotten ideas on how to mix my husband?s Idaho aesthetic of antlers and taxidermy with a mid-century modern look; how to make a giraffe out of a used paper towel roll, how to give furniture an antique, weathered Shabby Chic feel; how to create a wall collage, where to place a button-tufted ottoman in a room, and how to decoupage a wooden box. And if you have no idea what I?m talking about, then maybe you need to spend more time on Pinterest.
[i] In the meantime, Pinteresters in general might be in trouble soon, based upon whispers of possible copyright issues. http://www.npr.org/2012/03/22/149169388/pinterest-wades-in-murky-copyright-waters#commentBlock
Excellent, thought-out post. Thank you.
Comment by Saskia — March 28, 2012 @ 6:22 am
damn it andrea. i am now obligated to deconstruct my pinterest activities. 🙂
Comment by janiece — March 28, 2012 @ 10:03 am
Oh, believe me, this whole thing was painfully autobiographical.
Comment by andrearm — March 28, 2012 @ 10:24 am
Really great post.
Comment by M Miles — March 28, 2012 @ 10:54 am
Wow. I have always thought of the homemaking magazines and shows (take THAT, Martha.), but had only recently begun to think the same of Pin-ing things! What a wonderful and well thought out article. I still greatly prefer Pinterest to magazines, since I can, uh, not have thousands of pikes of pages of magazines stacked up waiting to try a recipe or craft, but I recognize exactly this problem in, not just the pinning of others, but myself as well. I’m glad you mentioned the bonuses and good things as well.. but it is truly a fantasy exercise, like a “things to do and places to go before I die” sort of concept, of fantasy life. I think you can learn a LOT about a person by their Pins…. just as you can see a lot about someone by their music collection and bookcases (or lack thereof.). Well thought out- am sharing…
Comment by Heather Berg. — March 28, 2012 @ 11:19 am
Great post, Andrea.
This Mormon woman is doing her best to throw off the curve. I don’t pin GA quotes, “ideas for Primary/YW,” crafts to do with my kids (hate crafts), outfits to wear after I lose the baby weight, OR exercises to lose said baby weight. I do have a feminism board and one for ideas for the home I currently live in.
Definitely related to this line: “How you feel when someone ?repins? your pin is a perhaps a similar emotion to when someone ?likes? your pithy comment on Facebook.” Oh, how annoyed I am with myself for wanting that validation. 🙂
Comment by Mindi — March 28, 2012 @ 12:59 pm
I appreciate this Andrea. It is thoughtful and well constructed and perfectly illustrates that LDS “culture” (not the faith) can have a destructive effect on our sense of individual worth.
I don’t Pin. Nor will I, though I’ve watched plenty of “friends” fall prey on Facebook. Thanks to your article I will continue to resist any outside pressure to do so.
The only unifying factor I think any LDS woman needs with another is her unrelenting faith in the reality of the Savior and his atoning sacrifice, and a dedication to keep her covenants. The idea that we all have to fit in the cookie cutter mold is abhorrent to me; I wish it were to more women who I see deny themselves to become everyone else’s idea of “perfection”.
(Oh, I don’t do lace doilies or center pieces for lessons either.) 🙂
Comment by Bonnie — March 28, 2012 @ 1:23 pm
@Heather– yes, as critical as I might seem here for what Pinterest means for “domestic performance,” I also think we all need to relax about it. One author said, “Sometimes a pin is just a pin.” And thanks for the shout-out to Segullah.
@Mindi– Just to test how much Pinterest is being used for social protest, activism and the like, I did three quick searches on AIDS, Rwanda, and Domestic Violence. Each of those pulled up a couple of dozen hits each. There’s so much untapped potential for P’est subscribers to use the site as a forum for disseminating awareness. But I don’t see that happening yet. Perhaps because people go to P’est as an escape from more conflict-laden issues they get on other forums– even Facebook.
Comment by andrearm — March 28, 2012 @ 1:27 pm
I disagree with this article completely, although I respect that the author was being very thoughtful. I had a friend say that for her Pinterest is how she envisions Zion – everyone sharing their ideas freely without renumeration. I don’t think pinning has symbolic weight reflecting the hoped-for image of myself. That’s just silly. Pinterest supplying the “illusion of conformity, perfection and accomplishment without having to do anything” is also silly. I pin something because I love the recipe or Halloween decoration and don’t have to actually clutter up my desk with ideas. Why do Mormons have to make everything, including PInterest, so complicated? Just pin and enjoy, ladies!
Comment by Melonie — March 28, 2012 @ 6:32 pm
Melonie, when you pin a recipe, are you recommending it because you have tried it and know it is a good one? Or because you intend to try it for dinner tonight? Or because it looks good and you might want to try it sometime, but you have no definite plans yet? Or because it is heart healthy/gluten free/diabetic friendly and you want to be helpful to others with those needs? Or for some other reason that you can identify?
I’d just like to understand better what you mean when you say you pin something because you love it — love it in what sense? Thanks.
Comment by Ardis E. Parshall — March 28, 2012 @ 6:54 pm
I have a (gasp) sewing blog. I almost exclusively follow sewing friends on pinterest (and some friends with great taste, a la Janiece). I pin things that I want to make, that I admire, that spark ideas, and sometimes because I think they are awesome. I used to save things to my iphone, but then the attribution is lost. I pin recipes I have made because otherwise I lose them, and sometimes recipes I would like to make.
For me, at least, I think this post is a little over the top. I also have spent more time reading and thinking about this post today than I have on Pinterest all week, so maybe there are many, many “young Mormon mommies” who take Pinterest far more seriously. I hope Pinterest makes private pinboards 🙂 And fixes their copyright issues.
But craft blogs as the definition of a virtual self? I’m right there with you on that one.
Comment by Katie Blakesley — March 28, 2012 @ 8:15 pm
I almost always try the recipes I pin. If I haven’t made it, then the occasion hasn’t arrived (i.e. double chocolate cake or Valentine desert). I have also pinned an image that was inspirational for my kids’ rooms (hoping to do them soon in our new house). I have also pinned specific websites I think certain people who follow my pins will enjoy. Then I just add that person’s name to the comments – (i.e. Diana, saw this and thought of you). Of course, I haven’t made or done every idea I’ve pinned, but that doesn’t bother me. If I ever have some free time or need an idea for a project, I go to my boards. Usually my imagination is sparked. Hope that answers.
Comment by Melonie — March 28, 2012 @ 8:22 pm
It does, thanks, Melonie.
In one way, the difference between you and andrearm might be mere vocabulary — what she calls “aspirational” corresponds more or less to your “occasion [that] hasn’t arrived” or “hoping to do them soon in our new house” — you aspire to do these things at a future time. You may be going beyond andrearm’s “invented self,” though, when you identify by name the friend you want to see something — it doesn’t seem to be an anonymous pose before strangers in that case, but more like a convenient way of tearing something out of a magazine and mailing it to a friend the way your mother might have done a generation ago. Thanks for the clarification.
Comment by Ardis E. Parshall — March 28, 2012 @ 8:48 pm
I have a quick question for Andrea (or anyone, really). What does the term “young Mormon mommy” mean? Do you qualify? Do I? Is it a demographic term? Cultural? I have just always wondered why people use “mommy” when there are so many other words that could be used.
Comment by Katie Blakesley — March 28, 2012 @ 9:51 pm
Katie– Great question. I think I was co-opting the phrase as a demographic stereotype, perhaps suggesting a younger set, still somewhere in transition between college and settled life, 1-4 young-ish children (hence, the “mommy”?), who are pursuing the usual expressions of childcare and domesticity, with few pursuits outside of those, except where they can do the “documenting” aspects of motherhood (photography, scrapbooking, crafting.)
I’m glad you pressed me on it, since I didn’t really give a lot of thought to my choice of words there. It would be worthy of some further discussion– Is there a pejorative tone to “young Mormon mommy”, and do we value certain versions of motherhood over others?
Comment by andrearm — March 28, 2012 @ 11:47 pm
Melonie– I appreciate your feedback, and I respect that you feel that pinning doesn’t carry any “symbolic weight” for you. That’s totally valid, and on many levels, I would say that’s true for most Pinteresters, including myself. (Remember that even though I’m offering a critique of Pinterest, I am myself an admitted and totally unabashed Pinterester.) As I conceded in comment #8, “Sometimes a pin is just a pin.” That said, I do think that there is an element for some people of putting on a good show– perhaps just for themselves even–with elaborate vacation, clothing and grand home design schemes. In those cases, it might not be just about “hey, this is a cool thing I want to try,” and more about, “This is the life that I imagine for myself.”– not that that’s a bad thing, either. I wanted to capture a bit of the complexity of motives behind people wanting to publicly share their intimate ideas, dreams, and creative aspirations in an online forum like this. Still, I hope that I gave enough validity– especially in my last two paragraphs– of what you are describing as well. Good luck, and keep on pinning!
Comment by andrearm — March 29, 2012 @ 12:11 am
I would like to note that all the comments are from women (I’m sure you all noticed that), but that there is also a proliferation of smiley faces not normally seen on such blogs. What does that tell us about gender divisons? 🙂
I think that a pin is sometimes just a pin, I think pinterest is a handy way to keep track of recipes and projects and design ideas. I need something new for dinner and i look at my “food snob central” board. I need a project and I look at my “need to replicate this” board. But there are certainly larger themes at work. Take for instance yesterday when I posted a grammar pin. It wasn’t for me (I think I’ve got those covered–though my use of affect and effect could probably still use some work), but I was hoping that others might improve. Was it a charitable pin? I’m not entirely sure…hoping that maybe I don’t have to be so annoyed by ridiculous grammar? Certainly.
To take a devotional turn–Something doesn’t have to be inherently evil to be bad in our lives (NAM). Being agents requires that we think about things and evaluate their function in our lives from time to time, if Pinterest is oppressive then why the in the hell are you (the generic you) still on it? (I live in England now and my use of hell and damn seems to grow exponentially.) 🙂
And thanks for the props on my pinterest boards ladies. Because like Mindi I get annoyed with myself but I still like that validation.
Comment by janiece — March 29, 2012 @ 8:19 am
This is perhaps one of the best posts I’ve read in a while, Andrea; thanks for sharing it.
I imagine for contemporary historians and scholars who wish to see how mormon women understand, present, and articulate a coherent and commercial identity, there couldn’t have been a better creation than Pinterest.
Comment by Ben P — March 29, 2012 @ 8:32 am
I read most JI posts, I rarely comment on them. I commented on this one because it has relevance to my daily life.
Andrea, I do think the term “young Mormon mommy” is pejorative, or at least unflattering. By saying young Mormon mother you hit the same demographic markers without the cultural stereotype. (This term is a personal pet peeve of mine–kind of like being told I or something I make is “cute.” I certainly don’t think you were plotting to write off an entire section of my RS). To me, a “mommy” is someone play-acting at something. My 2 year old is a “mommy” to her dolls; my 26 year old sister in RS with 4 kids is a mother, albeit a much more exhausted mother than I am.
Comment by Katie Blakesley — March 29, 2012 @ 11:19 am
A year ago, I was afraid that Facebook was going to replace the Internet. Pinterest has allayed those fears– it is the fastest growing website, ever. Facebook no longer has a lock on our Internet time.
As a red-blooded American male, I can’t seem to spend more than 5 minutes on Pinterest before losing interest. Honestly, I enjoy reading Wikipedia articles much more. But clearly women who live in flyover country are hooked on the site, and I’m jealous of the men who built Pinterest and the billions of dollars they will soon be worth.
This blog post reminded me of a 2009 movie called “Surrogate”. It takes place in the near future, and everyone stays at home in their pajamas with their brain plugged into a computer that lets them control a beautiful android robots in the real world. They can walk around and experience life as a beautiful person.
Comment by American Eagle — March 29, 2012 @ 4:18 pm
It’s interesting to read this kind of critique of Pinterest. I can definitely see that it *could* be a problem, but I don’t think it necessarily *is* a guaranteed “illusion of conformity, perfection and accomplishment without having to do anything” or that gathering ideas is always a shallow, superficial endeavor.
I use it primarily like I do other social media tools, to both organize and remember content that I like, and to do SEO-based missionary work. Granted, Pinterest is annoyingly ill-suited for the latter (clearly it’s commercially driven), but so what? I’ll use it my way anyway. That’s my feeling about it.
It’s also occasionally given me some fun ideas for breaking out of my cooking ruts.
I wanted to share another interesting positive I’ve found with social media. I’ve realized lately that having a variety of options, opinions, ideas, causes, etc that I can skim in a matter or minutes can either overwhelm me (which sometimes it has) or it can empower me. I’m feeling more of the latter. I think it doesn’t take long to realize that it’s impossible to reach all the ideals that people put forth, or support all the good causes out there, or jump on every latest bandwagon, or engage in every political discussion, or do all the ‘cute’ things others may be doing for their home or their kids or their closets. It’s help reinforce the truth that I’m here to act and not be acted upon.
All the while, I can also sometimes skim over an idea or an article that ends up being a good thing for me. We can make social media work within the realms of our values. But I don’t have to get sucked into the vortex. I don’t have to use Pinterest to be selfish or self-serving or spendy.
Comment by Michelle — March 30, 2012 @ 2:26 am
I posed a question/concern to Ben about his comment: “I imagine for contemporary historians and scholars who wish to see how mormon women understand, present, and articulate a coherent and commercial identity, there couldn?t have been a better creation than Pinterest.” I’m curious how you think ‘there couldn’t have been a better creation than Pinterest” to somehow make conclusions about this.
This to me IS a concern I have about Pinterest. I hope that scholars and historians will not assume that how *some* Mormon women a social media tool represents who we are and how we think or what makes us tick.
Comment by Michelle — March 30, 2012 @ 2:32 am
I would really love to use Pinterest. Unfortunately no matter how many times I try to sign up I get an error at some point in the process. I’ve tried with different browsers and the errors occur at different points. No matter what I do, I’m Pinterest-less.
That said, I look at Pinterest as a sort of visual “Favorites.” I’d already been saving things in my favorites folder forever but it’s not as helpful to browse by website title (especially when the title of the website has nothing to do with the idea I saved and am trying to recall) as it is to browse visually. I don’t really care what others think of my “favorites.” I want the visual convenience.
I’m just sad I can’t use Pinterest and it has nothing to do with “keeping up with the Joneses.” I can see the potential for it to get that way, however.
Comment by LDSTex — March 30, 2012 @ 12:13 pm
I have to say, I think sometimes people read WAY too much into an innocent activity. It’s kind of like the professor who once told me he was writing a book on the meaning of the noses in Dante’s work. Does there really need to be a “deeper meaning” behind finding interesting ideas and sharing them with other people or reminding myself of where to find the instructions for a project? Apparently, I’m just really shallow because it would never mean anything more to me than that. And frankly, that’s not going to change after reading this article.
Comment by Margo — April 1, 2012 @ 8:24 pm
I’m surprised by the tone of this article. I have never looked at Pinterest as a way to impress or provide a false idea of who I am or what I can afford or what my house looks like. And I’m surprised by how many commenters agree with what you wrote. Really, are we that petty? What does it say about Mormon women to discuss how insecure we are that we feel we have to portray perfection, marital bliss, etc.? Whether or not there is some truth to this, it needs to NOT be an issue that any Mormon women give validity to. Let’s be real! We all know that people struggle, have hard times, and are for the most part trying their best. Give each other a little credit and let’s be known for being compassionate and understanding and real, instead of portraying ourselves as being so concerned about painting the perfect picture of home and family life. Again, it makes us seem so petty. Listen to Elder Holland’s talk from this last General Conference and stop coveting and be grateful.
Back to Pinterest . . . I have only felt that FINALLY there is a great way to store all of the things I find online that I want to save. And just because I pin a beautiful interior, does not in any way mean that I want everyone to think that my house looks like that, or that I secretly think others will think more highly of me for my good taste. Can’t we focus on the good things?
Comment by Lisa — April 5, 2012 @ 6:14 am
As a guy on pinterest I deff feel the presence of women on there. If I want something shared it has to be aimed at women.
I can’t say I share the same feelings about lusting after more though. I am happy with what I have and the direction we are headed as a family. My wife finds pinterest amusing but that’s it. No lure for her to join or even look at it.
Comment by AntonEnglish.com — April 5, 2012 @ 6:07 pm
Is the internet bad? because people can use it for bad things.
I think this article is a little on the pessimistic side. I think that with all things you need self control and personal boundaries. If it makes you feel bad about yourself when you see all the home decor then stop looking at the home decor. If you have a hard time with eating bad things then stop looking at the dessert section. There are so many great things we can learn from each other and I love getting ideas from Pinterest.
You are upset about the money saving ideas mingled in with ostentatious decor. Most women bloggers mix the two. They see grand ideas and find ways to improvise and do it their way.
I like Pinterest. It has a healthy place in my life and I feel bad for those that can’t either balance it in their own life or just hate it because they can.
Comment by gavin — April 9, 2012 @ 12:02 pm
I think it all depends. I truly use Pinterest as an area to compile ideas I wanted to try and when I am finished trying them…I delete the pins. I don’t care who looks at my boards. I don’t care what others pin.
As with all social media and other internet sites, it is in how people allow it to benefit them (or detract from them). If women use it to compare themselves to others or to portray a lifestyle they feel is perfect, that’s a problem.
As I read other Mommy’s blog and see ideas of things they did well it inspires me to find more joy in small details of life. This only becomes destructive if the reader allows it to be so. And if their wasn’t Pinterest or Blogs, those inclined to compare themselves to other women would do so through other means whether it’s their size, hair, clothing, church attendance, callings or anything else.
Pinterest hasn’t made these comparisons worse…just more visible.
Comment by Emilie — April 29, 2012 @ 2:28 pm